Cutting Off Communication

In relationships, it is tough to stick to your word. You say to yourself that you won't call. You call. You say that you won't be too needy. You get needy. They say that they won't get angry when you go out with your girlfriends. He gets overprotective. Even after a relationship is broken off, it gets hard to follow through with what you should do and what you really want to do. If you break up and cut ties with each other, it is the hardest thing to not wonder what they are doing that day and if they were actually having fun without you being there. However, that is exactly the moment when you have to stay strong - your moment of weakness.

During this moment of weakness you may say something that you don't mean to say. You might hurt the person that you only wanted to help. It is such a thin line between being helpful and hurtful. So what do you do? You can't call but you want to. You want to be needy and available but you can't. You have to wait it out but the last thing you have is patience. Here is a noteworthy trick so that you do not talk to that person...delete them out of your phone. This way, when you are "recovering" with a bottle of Smirnoff, you won't "accidentally" call him up and yell at him or cry into his voicemail. Today my friend did just that. She deleted him out of her cell phone. I couldn't believe she would have such strength knowing that it would be very hard for myself to do the same and I asked "Really? Wow. That is such a good idea." She replied "Yeah, I deleted him out of the phone but made sure to write the number down in a notebook, just in case." My advice - burn the notebook. Cutthroat but necessary!